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Most couples making wedding day plans have a lot of things that they do take into consideration.  They think about coordinating the date for vacation times.  Or they coordinate the day on what is best maybe for family to make it into town. Or they make plans according to the availability of the church or restaurant.

But one of the biggest things they fail to plan for on the wedding day is the photographer. This is no small issue.  And I am not just saying it because I am a wedding photographer. 

No planning the wedding day with the wedding photographer in mind could mean all the difference in the world. Especially when you realize that the photos are what are going to last a lifetime.

So what are the key factors to consider when planning with the photographer in mind.  The time and the date.

Let’s start with the time.  How many people do you think would want their photographer to rush taking the photos?  I am pretty sure most people will not raise their hand to that. 

Without even considering your photographer, a majority of the times most couples do just that.  They will force the photographer to rush his shots. 

How so you say?  Well a lot of times, the couple will schedule the ceremony for let’s say 1-2 pm.  With the reception starting at 2:30. How many shots can a photographer make when he only has a half hour to work with?  Not many.

In a perfect world, after a couple says "I do" they live happily ever after. Unfortunately, this is not a perfect world we live in. And a lot of times, after the wedding day, that is when trouble happens.

Whatever the cause, the couple's happy and blissful relationship all of a sudden turns cold and bitter.

In this article, I am going to draw on my experience as a family counselor San Diego to help a couple decide, when is it time for a couple to seek marriage counseling.

Disagreements, arguments, and fights happen.In most marriages it is very likely to happen.But if it persists, there is a time to decide for the couple on whether this is normal or part of everyday life.Or if what is going on is not normal and time to seek help.

Because left unchecked, problems in marriages can lead to ugly divorces.

So for couples seeking to keep their marriage, here are some key signs to look for and decide if marriage counseling San Diego is needed.

The first sign is bickering, do you guys bicker a lot?  Do little things cause you guys to argue? Although seemingly insignificant, this could be the start of something that turns bigger.

Second, do you find you don't have anything nice to say about each other? This shows you that you two are holding contempt for each other and that is not beneficial.

All of us loves secret.When someone asks ,”Can you keep a secret?” we’re all ears and can’t wait to hear what they will disclose that nobody else knows.Everybody feels very excited in listening and telling secrets.  After all, what good is learning a secret if you can’t tell it to someone?

If you’re reading this to learn the secrets to a happy marriage, you probably already know them and hopefully practice them daily.  However, if your marriage is suffering and you’re wondering if it can be fixed, the answer is yes.  But, it’s no secret it will take hard work, commitment and dedication.

According to our cultures also person is incomplete without marriage and family.  We want to find that special someone who will fulfill our life with happiness and love. 

Even though almost half of those who get married find themselves ultimately in divorce court, marriage is still popular and desirable.  90% of adults will get married at least once.Many divorced people also get married second or third time.  Maybe they didn’t learn the secret.

Marriages do not work by themselves.  Even the minister who married you cannot say for certain you will have a happy marriage.Relationships need great care , commitment and dedication.  It bears repeating and it should be repeated often by both parties involved.  You can’t build a happy marriage alone, you must work together.